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Forgiveness Is Free But Trust Must Be Earned
By Natalia Shpeter
Every one of us has experienced at least once in a lifetime that scorching offense feeling and we all know how bad it feels and how many energy it takes from us. The energy flies away from us on the constant basis, even if we really do want to distract ourselves from the issue and not to think about that anymore. We return to that thought again and again and we can’t stop (at least this is what we think) but thinking about it over and over again and creating from two to five different revenge scenarios in order to hurt the offender in the same way or even on the deeper level. We spend a significant amount of time by planning our revenge.
There are also people – very few of us- who can live with that without any revenge thoughts or even without any bad feeling. Are they happier than us? Are they achieving their goals much easier than we do? Do they look better? Yes, yes and yes. They don’t spend their time to think about something that can’t be changed; they are able to let it go fast and effortless. They focus on their dreams and not on their offenders.
And how many people do you know who just cannot let it go and regularly backed to those negative thoughts and offends? Is this that necessary to forgive? Why don’t we live our lives without forgiveness, why don’t we keep offends deeply in our souls and minds? And why is that so difficult to forgive and to let go?
Instantly we can create a million of different excuses of why we shouldn’t think about it to let it go and forgive the person, the people, the world, the weather, our boss, our children or our mate. Let’s have a look at the 5 most generic reasons why we don’t forgive and don’t want to give it at least a little effort:
1. The person who offended me doesn’t deserve to be forgiven. (Arrogance)
2. I can’t forgive her or him I just can’t. To forgive her or him would mean to humiliate myself in the eyes of all the people I know after all she or he has done to me. (Low self-esteem and overwhelming)
3. It is much easier to keep living the way I am living now and to be in my comfort zone (Lack of self-confidence and laziness)
4. I don’t want to think about that now (Procrastination)
5. Nobody would forgive this, so why should I do that? (Defense)
Do you recognize yourself in any of these reasons? How many can you create more?
The words in columns are the Consequences of those excuses we make up every time we are refusing to forgive. That’s much easier this way, isn’t it? It is so easy to blame people, circumstances, events or situations. We don’t take any responsibility. We are playing the victims. We are attention-getters and we like it somehow. This is easy and we know it well, we can predict the future and we stay safe. It is much harder to give an effort to forgive because this is beyond our comfort zone. This is what we actually don’t know, not used to and we can’t predict the possible outcome. That means for us staying not safe, taking a risk and taking a responsibility.
But by doing an effort, by going beyond our comfort zone, we make the most important in our lives action – we grow. That can hurt, that can annoy and disturb us very much, but at the end of the way we become a different person and we change our lives. By changing our ways we grow, we become able to see other opportunities, which we haven’t and couldn’t see before, we open our mind and we are ready to experience all the benefits of the forgiveness and love. We act differently and we get different results.
At that point we can attract only the same or similar situations and events, people and circumstances. We all know that, sometimes we act like we don’t really get it, we forget about the precious gifts waiting for us at the end of our way to forgiveness. Let’s have a look at minimum 5 benefits of Forgiveness:
1. Appreciation and gratitude
2. More energy and health
3. Enthusiasm and self-confidence
4. Allowance and more space for your dreams
5. Enhanced productivity and contentment
I am sure you have experienced this feeling of forgiveness at least once in your life, when the pain and struggle are vanishing and you feel gratitude and wishing only the best to your former offenders. I repeat I am sure you experienced it at least once in a lifetime. You couldn’t miss that because you are naturally tended to it, it is built in human nature to forgive and to love. We can’t help but do that. This is our natural way of being and we will never stop doing that. Remember, you know that, you know HOW to do that and you know WHY you do that. But often you turf it out because you don’t want to make any effort, you are too much influenced by appearances and your anger is still commanding you. But you are not your anger. The power of anger and the appearances will anyway pass with time.
Here I want to share with you the 5 biggest steps of the process of forgiving, if you still think that you don’t know how to do that. That can happen too, after all this time of turning it out of your head. So here are the 5 most important steps which lead to Forgiveness:
1. Be aware of your anger and negative thoughts processes, own it, deal with it, and speak to it.
2. Forgive yourself
3. Replace negative thoughts with positive affirmations
4. Insist on positive thinking
5. See and count all the benefits this lesson can offer to you and be thankful for them
Get free of your anger and offends, don’t let your past to command your life also now. Now is now, the past is in the past and now is all you have. You cannot drive the car by looking only in the rear view mirrors, if you don’t want to crush, you need to look ahead. The same here – look forward, to the future, be light and free, positive and powerful and insist on it. To forgive doesn’t mean to trust. You don’t have to stay with that person anyway, if you don’t want to. That situation, that event or that particular circumstance is not forever, it is temporarily situation. You have got a choice and you can chose whatever it is best for you. Soon you will find it easier to forgive; it will be your natural reaction. You are able to release your resentment and express more love by learning to love yourself. By forgiving easily the others, you will be easily forgiven, too.
To forgive is an important step on the way to achieving your dreams. You can significantly enhance the speed of realization of your dreams by forgiving and accepting current life or people you are doing with or situations coming up into your life time experience. Be present, be there, live it fully, feel it as much as you can and accept it all.
By forgiving you open the doors to your wealth, happiness and health and not to another opportunity to be hurt, because your trust is not earned, the lesson is learned and you are already on the higher level of emotional vibrations offering forgiveness, peace and acceptance.
Natalia Shpeter
Relationships Coach: Expert in Divorce Management, Couples Problem Solving, Break-Ups Management, Singles Lifestyle Management, Positive Thinking, Seduction, Mental Relaxation and Rejuvenation.
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