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A Guide on How to Impress Your Man’s Parents and What to Do If They Do Not Like You
By Jay Nelson Yang
For women, knowing how to make a great impression on your man’s parents is an important and essential skill that must be mastered. Especially when you truly think your man is the one you want to marry. His parents only want a good woman to marry their precious son, therefore you must demonstrate that you are the best candidate. When first meeting his parents, you should never be intimidated. While you are trying your best to impress them and showing them your best qualities; you should always remember to be yourself! It will not help in the long run if you made a great impress on them by pretending to be someone you are not.
Before meeting his parents, ask your boyfriend for more details about his parents. Find out as much information as you can about their preferences, as it will help you to think of conversation topics when talking to his parents. By being better prepared, in case if his parents are not talkative, you can save yourself from the moment of awkward silence. You should try to remember all family member’s name and their faces from photos. If you can address them by their names the minute you meet them for the first time, it would be a pleasant surprise for them! It will help you to make a great impression.
This is also a perfect chance to observe and evaluate his parents for two main reasons. First, if you are quite serious about this relationship, you might want to try to imagine and think about if one day you and him got married, would you gladly accept his folks to be your in-laws? Are they nice, genuine and down-to-the-earth people you would love to be around on holidays? Are they bitter and hard to get along folks you would try your best to avoid? After you had spent some time with them, if you still find yourself disliking your man’s parents, it could be a warning sign that you might want to reconsider about this relationship.
Second, it is true if a man is close to his parents, he tends to look for women that carry wonderful and similar qualities as his mother. On the other hand, he might also carry both positive and negative qualities from his father. It is up for you to decide what determines a good or bad quality. You should use this chance to have a closer look at his parents, whether you like it or not, you might end up discovering some qualities that your man and his father both have in common.
What Not to Do When Meeting His Parents
About Joking With His Parents
You can be yourself and make cute jokes with his parents, but do not go overboard because you are risking to be viewed as being disrespectful by his parents. Be more reserved when making jokes.
Do Not Complain About Your Boyfriend
His parents might ask you if he is treating you good enough just as polite and humorous gesture. Therefore, do not take it seriously and talk about private relationship issues that should be kept between you and him. They certainly do not want to hear you complaining about their son.
Do Not Get Kissy Touchy in Front of His Parents
You and him holding each other’s hand is acceptable, but do restrain yourself from getting kissy-touchy in front of his parents, save the French kisses at home. You certainly do not want to make his mother feel jealous.
Guide to Winning His Parents’ Love and Hearts
Be On Time
Do not be late! Make sure you and your boyfriend both arrive on time, there is no such thing as being fashionably late. It will make a negative impression on his parents.
Dress According to the Occasion
Dressing sexy in a mini skirt is probably not a smart idea. It is best for you to play it safe. Dress in semi-formal attire. Unless the date with his parents is taking place at an upscale restaurant, in that case, you should only dress in formal attire. If you are unsure about what to wear, ask your parents to pick the outfits for you.
Compliments
Do not give fake compliments; fake compliments are easily spotted, it does not help making a good impression on his parents. You should only give sincere and genuine compliments. Complimenting their home deco and his mother’s home cooked cuisine is a must when visiting his parents’ house
Family Album
If his parents wants to show you their family album, it is the time for you to make some nice comments and light-hearted remarks. It shows that you truly care about their son.
Be Yourself and Do Not Be Intimidated
Elder people don’t always like to be treated as they are elders, because they don’t want to feel distant and neglected. Speaking to them in an overly respectful manner is not the best way to win their hearts. Chat with them, laugh with them, joke with them, and ask nice questions about them. Start different conversation topics with them, and be genuinely interested in them. Treating them as if they are your friends. Just be polite, have respect.
Bring a Gift
Bringing a gift is a polite thing to do when visiting other people’s house. Ask your boyfriend for his parents’ preferences. Do not bring anything too expensive, a small and nice gift will do the job.
Smile and Be Polite
A genuine smile is the world’s best ice breaker. You should try to imagine something pleasant in your mind before you enter his parent’s house, or a restaurant. This will naturally brings a smile to your face. Smile when you are talking to them and answering their questions. In case there is a moment when you ran out of words and don’t know what to say, just smile!
Be Sincere and Genuine
When first meeting his parents, you should briefly and confidently introduce yourself, and tell them something wonderful and nice about your boyfriend. You should also try to give nice and sweet compliments, and let them know what you are currently doing in school or work.
After The Meal
If the meeting takes place at his parents’ house, you are likely to have one or two meals there. You should always offer help to prepare the meal, and be sure to offer help to clean up the dishes after the meal as well. His parents probably won’t let you do the dishes, but do offer your help as a polite gesture. It shows that you are a caring person with good manners and etiquette.
Perfect Ending
When it is time to leave, you should secretly hint your boyfriend, and have him to tell his parents that you and him are leaving. You should politely and sincerely thank them for a wonderful time, and make sure you let them know that you would like to see them again in the near future. If the vibe and mood feels cozy and warm; you can take it to another level by giving both of his parents a warm hug before saying goodbye.
What to Do If His Parents Do Not Like You
You have no control over their views and reactions towards you. They might just dislike you for the sole reason that they think you are taking their baby boy away from them. If his parents seem to be rude, picky, and disrespectful people; you should try to spend more time with them to observe if they are truly rude and disrespectful people.
If they still act disrespectful and unapproachable by giving you bad attitudes, maybe you should think twice about your relationship with your man; since when you marry a man, you also marry his entire family in a sense. You probably do not want to have bitter, rude and unapproachable folks as your in-laws that will tag along with your marriage. While you are spending more time observing their reactions, attitudes and views towards you; remember to be polite to his parents and treat them with respect. Do not say anything negative about them to your boyfriend, there is no need for such behavior. If you just keep treating them with nice gestures and respect, they might eventually change their attitudes and views towards you.
The importance of having your man’s mother to like you will be further discussed in Jay’s article “The Importance of Having Your Boyfriend’s Mother and Other Family Members to Like You”. Also check out article “How to Handle a Mama’s Boy and Deal With Obsessive Mother-in-law” for more great tips!
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